How Reading a Book Can Change Your World
Sometimes the exercise of reading a book does not only help to pull us out of our own selves, but sometimes also helps us to facilitate a change in perspective and how we show up in our own lives.
During all the insanity over the past couple of months, our worlds as we know them being closed, I found myself struggling to keep a solid grip on reality. I felt as though my emotions were ruled by the weather outside. If it was cold and rainy outside, then my feelings typically shuffled and matched the natural world outside of my window. Many of my clients and friends were reaching out to me stating the same feeling of this roller coaster energy, perspectives, and emotions. Knowing that most lean to me as a mentor of sorts I decided to find a way to alter my reality so that I could help to alter theirs as well.
The easiest way for me to accomplish this was to ensure that my energy was grounded and to shift my attention to something positive, enlightening, and growth worthy. Reading was my answer. I have small piles of books all over my home and office. They were all waiting for me to dive in, explore, and grow.
The books I selected to read over the past three months were eclectic at best!
Topics I found myself engrossed with ranged from, self-help to informative to erotica. At all times I found myself surrendering to the mood of the book and how it spoke to me.
The informative books are always a short spurt read for me. I gather some information and quickly see the synchronicities in my life that tie into the reading and new knowledge I have gained.
Admittedly, Erotica has always been a divine pleasure for me. Fiction of this nature with underlying sexual tones awakens the part of me that can tend to go dormant due to the mundane bustle of life. These books are a longer reading obsession for me. Typically, they come in sets of three and do not take me long to finish. This awakens that side of me which repairs my feminine traits. For that, I not only recognize but am truly grateful.
However, my highest impact reading are the self-help books. These will take me a bit longer to finish because I enjoy absorbing the material through meditation and waking incorporation of the material into my life and my professional practice.
One book that I had read back in November which I decided one day recently just needed to be re-read. This was, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz.
During my journey of refamiliarizing myself with this work, I found it mesmerizing to see my own highlights from a time that was not so long ago. I was dumbfounded at how my perspective had shifted so strongly in such a short period of time!
In November, I was with my family in Bermuda, free and frolicking over the holiday. As I re-read this in April, we were locked down in our homes without the ability to participate in assisted self-care, dining, or any other social outlets including seeing extended family for the risk of potentially making them ill. The world was indeed polar, and I had now experienced both sides. This is another silver lining of the COVID 19 Pandemic? Yes, I said it! Silver lining. There are many silver linings that have come from the last three months of change. I pride myself on being able to see, feel, hear, and know them to be true.
And today I want to share with you a couple of ways that this particular book absolutely shifted my perspective…
1. I am what I say I am.
This was not new to me, but it was again a way for me to regain my god-given rights and power. One of my mentors has always said, “You are what you think you are.” Therefore, if you want to feel bad – then think bad things. You want to feel ugly, think ugly things. I chose to seek out and ultimately found the silver lining in the pandemic. I chose to be a light. Don’t get me wrong I had my days but, once I changed my perspective, I changed my world. Anyone can do this.
2. I take nothing personal.
This was a big one for me. During this time, I found that many were feeling scattered, scared and suffering. Including people that are close to me. Some hid themselves away while others acted out and sometimes towards me. But NONE – let me repeat that, NONE of that had anything to do with me. They did not vent on me because of something I did, they did not stop contacting me because of something I did. They all did what they did because they themselves were dealing with their own experience of life in that moment. You see, each of us has our own path and needs that we ourselves must fulfill. To quote one of my favorite musical bands, Rebellution, “You are why you are suffering”. I realize that things said to me or about me have more to do with the person themselves and what they are experiencing and likely battling with, in, and at that particular moment. I think it is important that we all realize that not everything is about us and then we can release the emotions we feel when someone close to us perceivable imposes upon us. Just remember, it is not personal!
3. Assuming anything is an error.
I think back to my youth when I was told that “when we assume something it makes an ass of u and me”. I’m sure you too have heard this at some point in your life too but just in case you haven’t – spell assume (ass – u – me). Funny that you can recall a lesson like that yet not learn it for yourself until many years later. This one is a lesson I think I have definitely relearned a few times now. Thinking that I know how another person feels and assuming that I know their reaction and reasoning, ultimately will only cause conflict. By not assuming, we can become better communicators, friends, and reliable, support part of the peoples lives whom we care most about.
Indeed remembering not to assume is a difficult human practice. It is our humanness that makes us want to believe that our experiences and situations are like another’s. Although there may be similarities, no two people have the same experience, and situations are always a touch if not way different because of that. To assume anything less is a poor choice. Refraining from assuming can help us build stronger human connections through listening and caring. Give it a try!
In summary, when your feeling as though you may be spiraling or losing touch with your higher self perhaps picking up a book is the answer. Perhaps reading can offer you a diversion. Or at least act as a catalyst to self-awareness and changing your perspective. As you read you will often check in with yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. Who couldn’t use a touch more of that!
Are you interested in learning more about Mindfulness? Nicole provides Mindfulness Training Classes at The New Hampshire Holistic Health Associates center in Nashua, NH. She also provides one on one Distance Healing courses and Mindfulness Training via Zoom.
Nicole’s Education includes a B.A. in Psychology and a M.Ed., concentration in counseling from Rivier University. She holds an additional post-graduate certificate in Human Resources form SNHU. In addition to her formal education, Nicole is a Certified Clinical Hypnotist and a member of the National Guild of Hypnotists. Nicole has completed certifications in; Neuro Linguistic Programming, Reiki, Qi Gong, Numerology, IET, Chronotherapy, and Aromatherapy.